This blog and I are committed to body positivity. I’m my about me section, I talk about the day I decided to stop thinking negatively about my body and the massive impact that small change has had on the way I feel about myself. But I have to be honest, it’s a continual process. Just like all of my other relationships, I’ve gotta work on my relationship with my body.
Even more so when my body ups and changes.
I used to quite like my boobs. Scrap that and let’s be honest, I loved my boobs. They were pretty awesome. Other people agreed. I could use them to hold beers. I told you they were awesome.
Then I lost weight and they changed, I got pregnant and they changed again, and once I stopped breastfeeding they changed again. They are not the boobs I once loved. While they still fit an F cup, it’s certainly not in the fun, full and flirty way they did before – there are other F words I could used to describe them now, but I won’t because ^ body positivity committed.
When I picture my boobs (it’s not a frequent pass time but I digress) I still picture the old ones. That’s not really fair to these new boobs (or noobs) – they’ve been through a lot after all. So, I’m setting out to accept the new ones … I told you, your relationship with your body is one you have to work on, and these are the ways I’m working on mine …
Normalize the new look
These poor noobs are constantly being compared to a picture in my head because I’m not used to them. So I’m setting out to ‘normalize’ my new look. This could be as simple as doing things like looking in the mirror for a minute before jumping in a shower, or straightening my hair/applying my makeup topless. Actually, the later has come with other great benefits including a lack of makeup stains and stray hairs on my clothing. Bonus.
Get re-fitted for a bra
Stop making the noobs sit in the old girls lingerie. It’s not fair on them, or me. So, like 90% of Australian women, I was wearing the wrong size bra. I now have my noobs sitting pretty in some fun and flirty bras. My tops may be all mum-uniform, but there’s a little bit of a sexiness going on underneath.
So, that’s my version of couples counseling for me and the noobs. I really think the concept behind how I’m working on my noob relationship could really be applied to any part of your body that your trying to embrace. Change the picture in your head of what it’s ‘supposed’ to look like and normalize what you’ve actually got… And then dress in a way that suits the reality.
Has your body undergone changes? How did you learn to embrace the new you?